You do not walk down the aisle on your wedding day saying to yourself, “I think I want be divorced after eight years of marriage”. Or, “I think after 25 years of marriage, when all the kids leave home, I want to divorce and find someone else.” No. On your wedding day, your dreams consisted of seeing you and your spouse walking hand in hand in the park as an old, happily married couple. Divorce happens for many different reasons. Most research suggests that a recovery period of two years is sufficient to move forward, but not to heal completely. Research also suggests that full recovery is not achieved until five years post-divorce, especially if the divorce was contentious or a surprise. Finding a counselor you trust to walk alongside you as you process your situation is of utmost importance. Oddly enough, if you choose, divorce can provide you with the opportunity to recreate your life and grow into the person you have always wanted to become. For more information about this issue and how to overcome it, please refer to our resources.
